- Whenever you think of the opposite, you have a way out!
Last time, I was riding my bike on the road when suddenly an electric bike appeared from behind, hooking onto my handlebars and pulling forward. I promptly noticed, loudly yelled to stop them, and prevented a potential accident.
So, I pondered a question: When are people susceptible to intrusion?
The answer I arrived at is:
People are vulnerable when they're distracted, absent-minded, doubtful, hesitant, fearful, or panicked.
(Nearly all accidents happen in these states. Other mishaps, too, are primarily caused by this.)
Simply reverse it, and you'll be preserved: Stay focused, don't lose focus, be firm, single-minded, concentrated, fearless.
(This is also the secret to victory, the mindset for success.)
The same applies to all matters: Whenever you think of the opposite, you have a way out!
When you're in a trough, sinking deeper and feeling hopeless and discouraged, always think of the opposite.
Anyway, that's what I did at the time, and my mindset immediately reversed.
What I thought was: Being in a trough, on the surface, seems like failure, a loss, but on the flip side of failure, I still benefit.
Firstly, the blow of failure humbled me, making me more cautious and humble.
Secondly, from failure, I found the flaws that have always existed in me, leading to thorough self-correction.
Thirdly, in the trough, I saw human nature and understood the rules of the world, adjusting my thinking accordingly.
Lastly, I was reborn from the trough. What I lost in the trough was all external; the key is that my physical and mental health were intact. From the trough, I was reborn and transformed into a better version of myself. Emerging from the trough, I was already a returning king, stronger and more resilient, indomitable.
Actively choose the life you want to live.
The turning point from being a career person to a free spirit came for me in Tibet.
Around 2013, I began to awaken. By then, I had been struggling in the workforce for nearly 10 years, reaching a bottleneck. It was either suppress my new consciousness and continue the nine-to-five grind or free myself and pursue liberty.
This was an extremely difficult turning point! I won't go into the process, but most awakened individuals are discouraged here. They lack the courage and determination to break out of their comfort zones and explore the unknown.
I was also mentally torn for a long time, severely depressed.
Later, I said I was going to Tibet and bought a sleeper ticket from Guangzhou to Lhasa. From the conception of the idea to embarking on the journey, it took less than seven days.
At that time, I terminated my rental in Shenzhen and had no plans to return.
Tibet truly healed me. As a Han Chinese, I encountered a vast world I had never seen before—majestic mountains, sincere faith.
But there were also downsides that disgusted me. At a rest stop, a Tibetan Mastiff was tied up across the road from a large house. I thought it was a guard dog and took a distant photo of the scenery. Immediately, a local Tibetan rushed out and demanded 20 yuan from me. It was clearly extortion in broad daylight. If I didn't comply, he threatened violence. It was disgusting! Fortunately, there was a retired Air Force brother in the group touring, and he advised me not to cause trouble in Tibetan areas, so I gave him the 20 yuan to settle it.
I've experienced the ugliness of human nature in every place—Guangzhou, Shenzhen, Tibet, Xi'an, my hometown... including the sacred spiritual place of Mount Longhu. That's why I say, all crows are black. The world is beautiful, but human nature is dark. Those who don't clear away the darkness of human nature through spiritual practice live in the gutter.
That's also why I don't dress up. Because young women's physical appearance inexplicably incites lewd fantasies from lascivious individuals. It's disgusting and troubling. (I've experienced similar incidents no fewer than 10 times.)
And the suppression from the same sex. Some female detractors take advantage of the situation to ridicule me, saying I'm ugly, undermining my confidence. Then there are backstabbers among plastic sisterhoods.
I used to be disappointed in human nature because I still had expectations.
Now I'm content and won't be disappointed in anyone because I keep away from human nature. Apart from a few friends and work-related people, others will never intersect with me in this lifetime.
I stayed in Tibet for a month or two. One day, while walking along the Lhasa River, I saw a group of Tibetans dancing around a bonfire on a construction site. They were construction workers, enjoying themselves after a hard day's work. I was deeply moved. I'm an urban white-collar elite, yet I'm depressed every day. My way of life must be wrong.
Shortly after, I walked into a bookstore by the river and came across a book titled "Live Life Your Way." In that moment, I woke up and realized that was the answer I was seeking.
In 2014, I returned to Shenzhen from Tibet. Since then, I've truly done just that—lived life my way.
I'm devoted to mountains and waters, pleased with grass and trees.
In the afternoon, when I hear a beautiful melody,
In an instant,
I recall the profusion of flowers at Xi'an Jiaotong University,
I remember the serene shade of trees in Shenzhen's summer,
I reminisce about the blue sky and white clouds of the Tibetan Plateau,
I recall every beautiful moment from my memories,
I feel like shedding tears a little.
It turns out, I chose to forget the people in the stories but can't forget the landscapes I've seen.
